Exercise
1-E
Discover
and Express the Truth Turn Inward for
Truth
Feelings of resentment,
obsession, or vengeance indicate that there is a crisis in communication.
This soul test challenges you to turn inward to discover and express a
deeper truth. To thine own Self be true. Seek to understand yourself first,
and your betrayer second. Learn to develop and use good communication skills
when you share your truth with others. When you are ready to communicate
to your betrayer-initiator, practice using “I” statements instead of “you”
statements.
Write
about them in your journal or may we suggest you print
exercises 1e to 1i
To
deepen your inner work, ask yourself:
1. What are my
doubts about the other person?
2. What are my
judgments or criticisms of their behavior or actions toward me?
3. What hurts me
the most?
4. Why does this
hurt so much? What is my interpretation of their behavior?
5. What have I
withheld saying to them?
6. What would happen
if I said that? What are my fears?
Exercise 1-F
Know
and Own the Shadow in Yourself
Relax, Release,
Receive
Denial of the positive
in your betrayer leads to shadow projection and bitter resignation. This
soul test challenges you to discover and own the shadow in yourself. Develop
compassion for yourself and others. Learn to relax fear reactions. Strive
to release self-righteousness by recognizing both positive and negative
traits within yourself. Continue to receive inner direction.
Relax your body
and mind. Use breathing techniques or physical exercise, or talk to a friend
to release tension. Practice releasing attachment to outcomes. Be gentle
with yourself. Learn to perceive both positive and negative qualities in
both your betrayer and yourself.
To discover and
own your shadow, use your righteous resentment as a guide. Make a list
of the negative traits of your betrayer. Circle the one trait that bothers
you the most. Now ask yourself:
7. What is my past
experience with this trait?
8. Have I ever
acted (or wanted to act) like that?
9. What motivated
me when I acted in that manner?
10. What bothers,
upsets, or scares me most about acting that way?
11. What sets this
fear pattern into motion?
12. Am I ready
to be free of this pattern?
Exercise
1-G
Be
Aware of Your Special Soul Challenges
Use Intuition
to Understand
Cynicism leads
to generalization and stereotyping. This soul test challenges you to understand
the highest good, deeper meaning, and special gift or soul purpose that
is unique to you and furthers your personal spiritual growth. Develop your
intuition to gain greater awareness.
Use inner and outer
resources to recognize, accept, and release your personal and cultural
preconceptions, prejudices, and patterns. Draw on
intuitive tools—tarot,
astrology, runes, I Ching, prayer, and friends and family. Keep your observing
Self present.
To gain insight
into the personal message, unique soul challenge, teaching, meaning, or
deeper purpose hidden in your betrayal experience, recall your shadow work
in Exercise 1-F. After you have reviewed your personal history and identified
the patterns of behavior that constitute your fear reaction, ask yourself:
13. What in me
has perpetuated this pattern?
14. What did my
soul have in mind for me by bringing me this situation?
15. What is the
highest teaching my soul wanted me to learn from this?
16. What is the
best possible outcome for me in my life as I integrate this teaching?
17. Is there any
additional guidance for me at this time that will assist me further?
Exercise
1-H
Rediscover
and Recommit to Your Dream
Speak, Share,
Stand Up
Self-betrayal,
self-rejection, and self-abandonment are the result of your denial of your
dreams, values, or vital vision. This soul test challenges you to rediscover
and recommit to your dreams. Learn to take a stand in life, speak your
truth, and share your insights, awareness, and dreams. Use creative visualization
and affirmation to empower your vital vision. Commit to cooperating with
your creative Source. Make this your primary relationship. Use self-reflection,
contemplation, prayer, and meditation to open communication.
Develop your relationship
with yourself as your primary relationship. Treat yourself the way you
wish to be treated. Use this ideal relationship as a model for your interactions
with others. Practice becoming a cocreator with your inner Source. Ask
yourself:
18. Based on the
best possible outcome, what are my ideals, dreams, and visions?
19. What am I like
in my most ideal Self in relationship to my betrayer?
20. When did I
stop being that way in our relationship? What trigger disempowered me?
21. What can I
do to help me grow stronger, to support me in living out my ideals?
22. Can I do that
now with my betrayer? Why or why not?
Exercise
1-I
Train
Yourself to TRUST
Try Again and
TRUST
Paranoid fear,
control, and manipulation arise in direct proportion to your denial of
your existential freedom to be. This soul test teaches you to trust the
process of life that returns you to your true spiritual source within.
Remember that you are spiritually free. Allow others the same freedom.
Learn to ACT, and TRUST the process that takes you on your soul's journey
from betrayal to trust and forgiveness.
Fear reactions,
such as anxiety, worry, anger, or hurt, are natural when we act in new
and unfamiliar ways. Observe your emotional reactions and use them as an
intuitive signal to return within for further guidance. Coming to trust
yourself is both the process and the goal of this universal rite of passage.
When you are faced
with tension or feedback that causes you to pause, try to turn inward first,
rather than react. Ask yourself:
23. What blocks
me from being “me” when I am with my betrayer?
24. What would
happen if I were my true self? What is my worst fear or paranoia?
25. Has this fear
ever been realized in this lifetime or past lifetimes?
26. What was the
pattern or repeating theme?
27. What was the
soul lesson or teaching?
Rest
assured, this is a confidential exercise, meant for you alone. Your responses
cannot be sent anywhere or saved in any medium.
Congratulations!
You've reviewed all the exercises for Chapter 1.
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